Tag Archives: the little things

Loving Yourself Is Not Acceptance, Improvement Is

Columnist Gordon Keith of the Dallas Morning News wrote a wonderful piece that appeared in yesterday’s paper about self-acceptance and body image.
In his article, he discusses the increasing trend of body shaming in men, and his own personal experience growing up in the shadows of a fit and sculpted father and brother.  Because he didn’t feel he could ever achieve having bodies like theirs, he leaned on words and wit to stand out.  And if you’ve ever read his columns, heard him on the radio or seen him on television, then you know that he’s funny and insightful.

One of the things Keith says really stuck with me:

Loving yourself is not the complete acceptance of the way you are. It’s about trying to improve.

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“Fat” Clothes

Today was a snow day for us, as sleet fell nearly all day yesterday and temps didn’t get out of the 20’s all day.  This made for nearly an inch of ice on the ground and roads, making it dangerous for anyone to drive, much less kids and school buses.  So no school today.

I slept in a little, had a leisurely breakfast, and then puttered around a bit.  I made a jambalaya for the crockpot (which turned out awesome–I will share the recipe later in the week), and did a little grading (not as much as I’d liked, but some is better than none).  I did a little reading on the OH VSG boards, and saw that someone who was pre-op had asked a question about how folks have dealt with their clothing sizes changing constantly post-op.  Several people had offered her suggestions about how to handle the rapidly changing sizes she’ll be dealing with, many of which were good.

Then midway through the thread she asked the question,

What do you do with your fat clothes?

I know she was referring to plus-sized clothing.  Certainly she meant “one’s larger clothes.”  Certainly.  She had to be.

But I am pretty sure she didn’t mean it that way.

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7 Months Post-Op, By The Numbers

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Today marks 7 months post-op.

In that time, I’ve gone down 6 shirt sizes.

Next month, I’ll be participating in my first 5K race.

During 2014, I’m planning on participating in at least 4 such races.

I used to take 3 different medications each day to manage different health conditions.

I have gotten rid of 2 comorbidities (type 2 diabetes and high blood pressure).

And I am 1 thankful and grateful girl.

I’m Growing Accustomed to My Face

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On the left: my old school ID badge, ca. 2006.  On the right:  me, last night.

Looking at my badge photo, I can’t believe I was actually that big.

Looking at my current photo, I can’t believe this is what I look like now.

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Post-Op Week 28 Progress Report

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This week’s date with the scale ended well.  I think I’ll go on another one next week to see where things head with our relationship.

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Conquering the Stairs

Today was a Saturdate with my husband. We went out for shawarma, mall walking, and a movie. Good times were had by all!

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“I Don’t Know How to Say This, But…”

was how a conversation I had with a student today started out.

She wandered toward me and said that as I was walking around returning quizzes today.

Then she said, “Mrs. F, you’ve lost a lot of weight since school started.” and gave me a look that says you’re not dying are you?

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December Weight Goal Met and Unexpected NSVs

I’ve been away from the blog for a couple of days and a couple of NSVs have happened since the last time I wrote:

  • I hit my December weight goal well before the 31st–I hit it yesterday morning.  While it would be awesome to drop another 10 pounds before January 2 (my 6-month followup appointment), I don’t think it’s going to happen.  But I’d like to get pretty damned close.
  • Then this morning, I noticed this:
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My belly is about 5″ away from the steering wheel here, and my seat is moved up about halfway. At this time last year, my belly was about an inch away, and my seat was pushed all the way back. If it were more comfortable for my legs, I’d move my seat up a bit more.

So those things were awesome and worth celebrating.

It’s the end of the semester and I have been grading student work like a fiend.  My aversion to grading has caught up to me so now I’m frantically trying to get it all done.  So tomorrow morning after I head to the gym to work out for an hour or so, I’ll be sitting on my ass all day working my way through a very giant pile of grading so that I can get a little rest on Sunday, write my final exam, and cook some meals to get ready for the upcoming week.

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Victory at the Movies

Today marked a couple of NSVs for me.  We went to the movies this afternoon and two things happened that have not happened in quite some time:

  • I didn’t get popcorn.  This is a very big deal for me, because popcorn is one of my absolute favorite snack foods of all time.  I really had to fight Fat Girl on this one, because they were popping it fresh.  And as I approached the concession stand to buy a bottle of water, I kept eying the popcorn cascading out of the popper, and smelling it…it smelled SO GOOD!  But when asked if I could be helped, I simply asked for a large bottle of water, paid for it and WALKED AWAY.  Also?  I’d packed some jerky in my bag (shhh, don’t tell on me!) as a substitute so that made it slightly easier to walk away from the popcorn (but still difficult).
  • My husband and I could both put the armrests on the seats down and were not sitting in each other’s space.  This is also a big deal, because before, we always had to put the armrests up, and even then, it was still pretty uncomfortable.  Not any more!

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Unexpected Joys

This week has been a supremely busy one and I haven’t had time to write as much as I’d like about how things are going right now. Thankfully things will slow down a little next week and I can get a little relaxation and rest in.  I will say that I am thankful every day that I had the wisdom to choose to have this surgery, and the persistence and determination to stay the course.

Lately, I have been noticing NSVs in places I least expected them to pop up.
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